inequality.

This is a topic my mum has always mentioned to me. 

"Never be together or marry a guy who is less successful than you."

Sounds pretty biased huh?

The reason she gave me for this statement is apparently because I would be judged by society, or my husband would be jealous of my success or wealth. I asked her, what is there to be judged, just by being a woman of power? This was her response. 

"People would look at your husband as a useless man who depends on you."

Well excuse me for wanting to be a woman of status and power.

Then why are women not judged for being dependent on men? I think we are too caught up with the concept of women needing to step back down, lowering ourselves to make the male population look good, as they are constantly perceived as dominating and powerful beings. Why can't we strive for the best for ourselves and make ourselves feel proud and confident for being the best we can? Yes, you tell me "Look around the ladies who are more educated/successful than their husbands, they quarrel, get jealous just because the husband are just a step behind them." So does that mean that we, the female population wouldn't and shouldn't get jealous over the overpowering status or success of your significant other?

 I'm not saying this all revolves around jealousy, but shouldn't we at least have a choice on how we want to strive for the better? Heck, I've heard and seen quite a lot of my guy friends looking/falling for or being with a girl much better than them. And the reason they give would be: "I learn so much from her everyday.", "I'm proud to have a girl like her because she's just good at many things, and she makes me a better person." etc etc. Now before anyone throws shade at me about the statement: "Makes me a better person.", what I mean is about character development. Everyone changes their personality through the years by themselves, just putting your partner in the equation makes the same results. Just depends whether you're affected in a good or bad way. 

And I personally think that all this biased thinking should wear off. I hope this generation doesn't get the same thinking from our elder generation like a cold. Our elder generation should realise that there are people like Augustus Waters. 

As I quote him,

You never worry if she is smarter than you: You know she is.

He knows that Hazel is smarter than him, and he knows that being together with her hurts. But he is content from being with her because he likes his choice of who hurts him.

Its all about ego. If you don't mind the wealth, fame, popularity, success, 

none of that can stand in between you and your partner.

I am not saying that all women have to strive much better than men, 

but actually to be not afraid on bringing out your best and be the badass you are.

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